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i know!!DX and i wanna talk to him but i cant so far its been like 3 or 4 days ugh

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you still grounded??

I'm having a HUGE delema with this guy that i've totally fallen for but he really confuses me. Ok to start ive liked him for a while now and my friend went and blabbed this to him, which i cant say is a bad thing cause it made him knotice me. However his friend was telling me shes on my side and she wants him to be with me but, im not his type. He thinks im cute but im not his type she says he likes older guys ones that are stocky muscular and taller than him. Although she said he thinks im cute and is interested. So the other day we made out but im not sure if he made out with me just to make out with me or not because the next day it was totally awkward again he just stayed away. however before we left i gave him a hug and i went to hug my friends and then came back and gave him another hug then went and huged my other friend and then he came and huged me (I kno lots of hugs >_<) and the last one he kinda lingered so idk if he wanted me to kiss him or not but idk. And thats another thing his friend told me he likes guys to make the first move and im so not like that im very shy till i get used to the person. so i really dont know what is going on.
(btw info on me compared to his "type" im shorter than him by like a bit, hes 6'1 im 5'10. also my buildis not big at all i have muscles just not the type hes looking for lol) and my friend was saying that hes 18 he doesnt have a type yet lol which i agree but i cant change what he likes and is looking for. I mean he hit on the PE teacher lol. but yeah idk what i should do... HELP!

so you're gay?

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Yes i am

It would seem.

I'm always blown away by how gay relationships become infused by all these issues women introduce into heterosexual relationships. Don't you want to just mess around and not worry about who hugged who or any of that crap? You could actually have that dynamic with another guy. Or so I imagined.

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im not quite sure what your trying to say?

You know, why worry about it? It's not like you knew them wicked well before you were physically interested in them, right? Who cares about intentions (that's something girls generally worry about, because they become emotionally attatched during sex, why care?), you got what you wanted. If you become attatched to them later, you can work it out seperately. But that's just my take on it. I don't think I've ever been emotionally attatched to someone before I was attracted to them physically. That's how you notice people in the first place.

Plus dude, the only conceivable reason to make out with someone is for sexual gratification. It's not like a goodbye kiss or holding hands, it's foreplay. When was the last time you had a tender thought about someone while you shoved your tongue in their ear?

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well for one i made out with him because i do like him and yeah i understand that i dont have any emotionaly attachment but i have a problem of getting attatched and i hate it cause when i really like someone i get very attatched and its hard for me to get my mind off of that person. Also everyone is differnet and their emotions work differently, and although sexual attraction almost always comes first i do want that emotional part also. I am the type of person that likes a relationship not flings or one night stands that doesnt satisfy me at all. and for the record ive NEVER stuck my tongue in anyones ear thats a bit gross and your answer kinda sounds like a typical emotionless male view of things just because you dont want that attatchment doesnt mean other people don't and its not only women and gay men that think like that. It goes both ways.

It's not so much about wanting emotional attatchment, I'm saying that men don't develop a sense of emotional closeness through the act of sex the way women tend to (due to hormonal differences). We develop emotional closeness other ways, so, as a male, you can probably understand your guy's motives in making out with you and can (naturally) keep your emotional attatchment abstract from a physical relationship. Why not take advantage of that?

I mean, that's great that you actually like them and want to get to know them and stuff, but why confuse things by wondering about the issue of physical intimacy?