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Re: Relationships/Lovelife Thread
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It's not so much about wanting emotional attatchment, I'm saying that men don't develop a sense of emotional closeness through the act of sex the way women tend to (due to hormonal differences). We develop emotional closeness other ways, so, as a male, you can probably understand your guy's motives in making out with you and can (naturally) keep your emotional attatchment abstract from a physical relationship. Why not take advantage of that?

I mean, that's great that you actually like them and want to get to know them and stuff, but why confuse things by wondering about the issue of physical intimacy?


Ok now i do understand what your saying a bit more, but I do want a relationship with this guy and the original question was im confused at if he even likes me or not.
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Ok now i do understand what your saying a bit more, but I do want a relationship with this guy and the original question was im confused at if he even likes me or not.


Better ask him or tell your feeling that u like him
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  •  whitelighter91
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Ok now i do understand what your saying a bit more, but I do want a relationship with this guy and the original question was im confused at if he even likes me or not.


Better ask him or tell your feeling that u like him


yeah i did exactly that today and he told me he didnt...and that he would rather just fool around but im really kinda sick of fooling around i kinda want a relationship right now but thanx for all the help :D
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RyuHikaru wrote:
Ouch...


i know!!DX and i wanna talk to him but i cant so far its been like 3 or 4 days ugh


you still grounded??


yup, but my crush bit me today V(^o^)V
Posted on: 2008/10/27 15:44
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  •  Josh_Shing
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Huh... I've never been in here before.. ('-' )( '-')

I dunno if this has been asked yet but I'll say it anyway:

So say your goin out on a date with this girl you met (who's really pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/hot) but don't know her quite yet, and both of you agree on seeing a movie. Me, being the nice and generous guy, pays for everything as a kinda "my treat" kinda thing. Movie goes great but say the girl was just using you to see the movie and stuff for free. What then? How can you tell if that's the case or not and how can you drop her before she drops you?

BTW on a side note, this was asked by my friend and i didn't have an answer for him so i thot i'd ask here. I COMPLETELY avoid going out like that. I prefer to get to know the girl a little better before i take her out.

Any ideas?

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  •  Roscoe
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I dunno' if a movie is expensive enough for a girl to use you over. Maybe if it was in a group and you paid for her and she didn't speak with you much, but it was a date, right?
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  •  Josh_Shing
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Yah maybe the movies isn't a good example of expensive. My friend however thinks so. He's indian.. like real Indian. The ones columbus was LOOKING for. So he tends to think really cheap. No offense in anyway.

But you get my point right? If it were a one-on-one kind of date, and she was tryin ta play me by getting a few free things off of me (shoes, dinner/lunch, etc.) wut would i do?

I'm curious as to what everybody else might do..?

Personally, if i was stuck in that situation, i would not really buy her a whole lot of expensive stuff and i would actually notice what kind of act she's pullin'. She'd be putting a hole in my back pocket.
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  •  Roscoe
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I've never been in that situation before. Obviously her personality would be crappy, so I guess I'd have to really like her body to put up with it. And even then, only until she asked for something too expensive.

I think you have to actually have a lot of money to attract that type of girl.
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  •  Amaterasu
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Yah maybe the movies isn't a good example of expensive. My friend however thinks so. He's indian.. like real Indian. The ones columbus was LOOKING for. So he tends to think really cheap. No offense in anyway.

But you get my point right? If it were a one-on-one kind of date, and she was tryin ta play me by getting a few free things off of me (shoes, dinner/lunch, etc.) wut would i do?

I'm curious as to what everybody else might do..?

Personally, if i was stuck in that situation, i would not really buy her a whole lot of expensive stuff and i would actually notice what kind of act she's pullin'. She'd be putting a hole in my back pocket.


Perhaps a good thing to do would be to go with a bunch of friends first and have each person pay for their own fare.

Knowing what kind of friends that she has has, the boyfriends and people that she's dated (as well as the outcome) could also be a great indicator of the situation that you're in right now. For instance: if she has only dated rich guys with cars...

It's a bit concerning in that you're thinking of these thoughts well before a relationship. There are two possibilities: paranoia, or perhaps a due cause for this fear. Both don't seem to resolve well.
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  •  Josh_Shing
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Yah maybe the movies isn't a good example of expensive. My friend however thinks so. He's indian.. like real Indian. The ones columbus was LOOKING for. So he tends to think really cheap. No offense in anyway.

But you get my point right? If it were a one-on-one kind of date, and she was tryin ta play me by getting a few free things off of me (shoes, dinner/lunch, etc.) wut would i do?

I'm curious as to what everybody else might do..?

Personally, if i was stuck in that situation, i would not really buy her a whole lot of expensive stuff and i would actually notice what kind of act she's pullin'. She'd be putting a hole in my back pocket.


Perhaps a good thing to do would be to go with a bunch of friends first and have each person pay for their own fare.

Knowing what kind of friends that she has has, the boyfriends and people that she's dated (as well as the outcome) could also be a great indicator of the situation that you're in right now. For instance: if she has only dated rich guys with cars...

It's a bit concerning in that you're thinking of these thoughts well before a relationship. There are two possibilities: paranoia, or perhaps a due cause for this fear. Both don't seem to resolve well.


Hmm i'll tell my friend about all of this. He's never gone out with a girl before so he knows nothin when it comes to this kinda stuff. Poor guy can't even talk (Casually!) to a girl ...But hey we've all been there, right?

Thanks for the replies!
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Posted on: 2008/10/28 21:44
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